Who gives words power? We do. Words have no power on their own, unlike cats they are not created with an all knowing all powerful attitude. They are inanimate and as easily manipulated as play doh.
Have you ever heard a southern belle say “Bless her heart”? She doesn’t mean that, but she has manipulated the words to sound like a blessing instead of what she really means, which is, that fucking bitch. But no southern belle would be caught dead using such “vulgar” language or speaking “ill” of someone else.
Everyone knows what you mean when you say “frik” or “Frack” or especially “fudge”, why not just say “fuck”? Why give so much power to a word? It isn’t the word that is bad in itself it is the intent in which you use it that holds the meaning.
My favorite story about Caitlyn (and bear with me if you have heard it before) is when she was just over 2 and we were walking to the car past the garbage dumpsters. She looked at me and said “Grandma something smells like shit”. and she was right it did. I first of all acknowledged her and said “You’re right, it is really stinky out here”, and then smiled with pride that she used the word shit in context. Her mother however was not as proud, but didn’t flip out either.
My niece Melody has posted a couple of times on Face Book about her 4 year old daughter asking to use the word bitch while playing video games.
I love that when Lynn and I play Mario she asks me every 5 seconds if she can say “son of a bitch” or “those bastards”.
The fact that she knew to ask for permission means that she knows at this age that those word have power.
There is a hoopla on the interwebs right now because Lily on Modern Family will be portrayed as saying the word “fuck”. The story doesn’t focus on the word itself but on how do the parents deal with it because they are afraid she may do it in public at an upcoming wedding. Fox News and the Daily Mail both wrote about this with sort of different results.
The comments on the Daily Mail pretty much condemn the author for even thinking this is “news” (or is it only me reading sarcasm into it?):
“Yes, super extremely shocking. Glad you made an article informing us about this!
- Bobbis, shirechester,uk, 12/1/2012 01:18″
Whereas the Fox News article has commenters calling for boycotts and included quotes from the Parents television Council saying the episode is in poor taste.
What the Fox news article doesn’t mention that the Daily Mail did is that the little girl who plays Lily (Aubrey Anderson-Emmons) does not actually say “fuck” while shooting. She says fudge and through the magic of television (bleeping and pixelating) the audience is led to believe that she is swearing. Funny that that little piece of information has been left out, but hey, a writers job is to ilicit thought and on the internet to illicit comments and it worked.
What makes me more mad is that neither article asked the opinion of the most important person involved – Aubrey’s mom. Amy Anderson is a fellow blogger and an amazing stand-up comedian. She is also a great mom. Aubrey is a delight to be around and I can’t imagine Amy putting Aubrey in harms way in any shape or form. Why does the opinion of the Parents Television Councils matter more than that of the mother?
I spoke to Amy via Face Book Chat regarding this and she assured me that not only didn’t she have a single qualm about the episode, it is one of her favorite episodes of the season! She said that one of the producers called her ahead of time to make sure she had read the script and was on board with what it entailed, which she found to be a professional move on their part. When I asked if there was any explanation on her part to Aubrey about what the scene was, she replied “I didn’t have to explain too much since she actually says ‘fudge’ on the episode. Her mouth will be pixilated & bleeped after the ‘fu’, each time. I explained that “fudge” is an expletive like “Oh darn” or “oh shoot” to which she replied, ‘BUT… it’s also a piece of chocolate!!’ “.
I for one can’t wait to see this episode of Modern Family, but I can’t wait to see every episode. I hope you’ll tune in and I hope you will let me know what you think.